Simple Ramblings From A Prim Cottage

Monday, September 12, 2011

Update on Dad

Sorry I've been a little absent and not got back to all the emails.Looks like this week is going to be hectic but I will try to drop in.I like browsing everyone's blogs even if I don't have time to comment with my short amount of computer time.I'm a a bit down and sad the last few days but I guess that's to be expected with all the stress I've been under with dad,my sister and a few other minor things.I always bounce back pretty fast but just the last few days I feel like being left alone and at times crying.Well yesterday I did cry a little the national athem set it off at market.They had a moment of silence and prayer and then the anthem and I cried a little.Yes I'm a patriot but I don't think pride was my reason.LoL....Dad made it through the surgery and got the tumor out.They said he'll have to do chemo again though.Went to see him today at the hospitol and it bothered me.He looked like a frail old man.My dad is not old mid fifties he had me at 18.But today he seemed old.He's always been a ball of energy and today he couldn't even move.I had to help him adjust in bed and get comfortable and he was in sooo much pain I was afraid I'd hurt him.He was talking about alot of weird things like walking his old dog that died about 8 years ago,his dad visiting whom died before I was born,needing money for cat food he doesn't have a cat.Hubby say's it's from the morphine and he will be ok and his old self but it bothered me.I was a CNA on a specialized Alzheimers unit for 10 years so I know he is probly right,but when it's your daddy it's differnt.He's supposed to come home thursday but at this point I don't see it happening.He said for me to make him a big pot of chicken corn soup because he is going home.I'll wait till wednesday to see.The nurse did say before he goes home he'll be on a regular diet though.She kept asking if he was in pain and he said no but told us yes so I told her because I don't want him released early and have more complications...Thanks again for all the prayers and emails you girls are such a wonderful support and know how to make me smile...I got the inside fall decorating done saturday I'll share pics soon.I have lots of regular stuff to share to.I also have been trying to get a giveaway planned for fall but want to get things settled so I can spend a little time on it..Big Hugs to all of you who have been such wonderful friends!~Amy


Traci~Moon Gypsy said...

Oh, Amy, my heart aches for you, my dear. Please know that I am thinking of you and praying for your Dad's recovery.

Your Dad was just the opposite of my father, I was born when he was 61 yrs. old..crazy man!

Can't wait to see pictures of your fall decor

Hugs to you,

Cat Nap Inn Primitives said...

I hope your dad recovers quickly..and he has his age on his side..so that should help..take care and keep us posted..;)my dad was 38 when I was born..)

Deppen homestead 1862 said...

Letting you know you are in my thoughts & prayers~
I am sending you a warm hug~ I hope this will comfort you~


Hi, I am glad your dad make it thru the surgery ok, and I am sure it is the morphine that makes him talk like that. It is hard to watch your dad like that, you think of them as being so strong, will keep all of you in my prayers. Hang in them. It will get better.

~Sara said...

Sending prayers for you and your family. Fall blessings ~Sara

Woman Seeking Center said...

It would be impossible not to worry..

But hold close the truth that all manner of post op factors are likely what you're observing your dear dad respond to: anesthesia, morphine, pain, post-op confusion, his own emotional let down post op, to name only a few.

Take heart in the fact that if he was alert & aware pre-op he's going to 'be-his-old-self' more each day.

All that said it still wrings tears from your heart and soul to see one you love sick, in pain, worried,frail. But don't underestimate the strength, comfort and ease you give him by simply 'being there' - watching over him. The gift of such things as alerting the nurse he IS having pain.
By doing that you allowed him to 'be tough, no pain here!' (as men are wont to do) but receive pain meds that help him rest and heal.

What a wonder and blessing it is to know in your heart that one who loves you is standing guard over you, advocating for you & your needs.

And at the risk of being a broken record :-) take care of yourself too! Cry, (crying is good!), nap, wander blogs, eat a pint of icecream - do whatever keeps you safe and sound and sane! (do it for yourself, for those in real and cyber-life who care about you)!

Hugs aplenty come with this sweetie!

Sheila said...

Sending you big hugs Amy. I have been thinking of you and praying for your dad.

We all know you have other things occupying your time so take care of yourself first. The rest of us will be here when you have time again. We miss you though.
Bless you,

Sandi @ The Primitive Skate said...

Your in my thoughts and Prayers!
Hope you can get some rest soon!
Take Care!

Brenda said...

Hi Amy! Haven't posted or commented lately but I have been keeping up with reading and I have been praying for you and your dad. I know how you are feeling, trust me!!
Take care and love ya!!

Linda ★ Parker's General said...

Such good news, yet bittersweet. It's over but it isn't. It is harder to recover than to just be sick. That's why this Cancer thing is so hated, feared and dreaded. Sounds like he is progressing normally for this serious of a surgery. My Mom went through the same thing. It does throw your chemical balance off and takes some time to straighten back out. But he will be back to his old self soon. Put your trust in God. He will carry this burden for you, if you just let him help you. I think it's sweet that he's thinking of good food when he sees you. It may be primal but it speaks straight from the heart. He is lucky to have you for a daughter.......
And I am lucky to have you for a friend!
I haven't even started decorating. It's in the 80's again today and just doesn't feel fall yet. It needs to get cool enough to burn a few logs in the pit!
Take it easy, my friend.
Know I am thinking of you guys and praying for a good recovery!
Warmest autumn blessings,

~Madalynne~ said...

It's good to hear that your dad came through the surgery okay. A couple extra days in the hospital might be best ~ since he sounds like the kinda' guy that might push himself too hard if were to get home too quick. Hope things get better for you soon Amy ~ stress has a way of wearing us down, but keep the faith ~ you have lots of prayers comin' your way.

Margie said...

The love you have for your dad shines so brightly...he is a truly blessed man to have such a great daughter. My heart is aching for you dear and I am taking you to the Lord in prayer. Sometimes a cry is just what the dr ordered by the way. And, sweetie, dont worry about your dad's "nonsense" talking...it's most definately the morphine talking...does weird things to you. When I was really sick my huuby said I kept saying we were out of peanut butter and acted like I was looking through the cabinets...all from my hospital bed !!! That must have been a riot...but I came out of dear, so dont fret.

Take care sweetie and know we all care about you.


Jessica said...

Hi Amy, praying for you and your daddy. I am glad he came out of surgery well. Praying for a good and full recovery from surgery, so he can be back to himself. Take care of yourself!

Blessings, Jessica

Penny said...

So glad to hear that your dad made it through the surgery. I pray that he will have a fast and complete recovery..... You hang in there -- it's been a rough time for you, but better days are coming!

Ellie's Country Accents said...

I'm so glad your Dad came thru the surgery, I'll be thinking of you both and keep you in my prayers.

Sending you a big hug, Ellie

Raymond Homestead said...

I hope your dad gets to feeling better. I bet all his confusion has a lot to do with the meds. Continue to take care of yourself during this stressful time!

Lorna/Live Oak Primitive Peddler said...

Hi Sweetie!! Bless your heart!! I've been thinking of you and praying for you and your Dad. Sometimes a good cry is just what the body needs. Glad your Dad did well through the surgery. The pain medicines really can make you say weird things. I hear tales from Hubby about things I say, I can't take morphine but demoral makes me nutty.:-)
I look forward to seeing your pics. I pray life will soon be less stressful for you and things will get back to normal. Will continue to pray for your Dad too.
Take good care of yourself!!
Big Hugs,

Rugs and Pugs said...

Amy ~
Prayers for your dad! Believe me morphine makes people crazy. I think I sat and cried for two days when my mom received it after surgery because her actions and words were so crazy. I thought she would never be okay.
Hugs :)

Prims By The Water said...

They say that you heal faster at home...but hopefully they will not release your dad too early. Will be thnking about you and you know all of us blogger sisters are saying prayers for you. take care, Janice

Robin at The Primitive Hutch said...

Oh Amy, I'm so sorry to hear your all stressed out, don't worry about us, we'll always be here. Take care of yourself. Sounds like your Dad is only spaced out from the drugs ~ they do say the weirdest things. You always said your Dad was a strong man ~ I'm sure he will bounce back in time ~ he has been through a lot in a short time.
Prayers being sent your way for your Dad that he has a speedy recovery and that God watches over you and gives you the strength to pull through all this.
Take Care My Friend
Prim Blessings

Marilyn said...

My prayers and thought are with you. I pray your dad will get well SOON and come home where he can have your soup--I bet that makes him better real quick!

Anonymous said...

Hi Amy: My thoughts and prayers are with you and your father!!
Take it easy.

TheCrankyCrow said...

Awww...Sweet Amy - my prayers continue for you and your dad....So much to digest, handle, and absorb. But, as others have said - yes, meds have so much to do with it - not only morphine, but even just the anesthesia - when my mom had her knee surgery, I had to practically tie her to the bed because she thought she had to make dinner for the entire hospital staff...Funny now, but not so much then. At least he's remembering your good home cooking clearly....hmmmm chicken corn soup sounds tempting and delightful - cold weather's heading our way.

Best thoughts, wishes, and heartfelt prayers dear friend....Robin

christina said...

Amy~My thoughts and prayers are with you and your dad. Hope he recovers qickly and gets to come home soon to enjoy your soup!
Big Hugs~~Christina

Raymond Homestead said...

My thoughts and prayers are with you during this stressful time!